Since today is HUMP DAY and I wanted to show my face in Bloggyland….
Old pic. But I had a pretty morning sunshine like this today!
….I figured I’d take a different route than usual. Let’s talk about a topic that I’m pretty sure will interest you or get you red faced mad. Only because I just saw it happen when it was brought up.
You’re probably wondering what the title is all about, right? Well, maybe I should have worded it differently. Here we go………….
In our Biblestudy group, we have been doing a series of A Biblical Portrait of Marriage, as some of you may know. Basically, it is to teach us how God intended for marriages to be. And let me tell you, things are SOOOO different than back in bible times. The last couple of weeks have been on the topics of The Role of the Wife: Helper, The Responsibilty of the Wife: Submitting, The Role of the Husband: Leader.
Ok, to put it simple this is what we learned. Husband is Head of Household. Wife is beneath the husband. The wife should submit to the husband and in the end, he gets final say-so.
I was blog stalking last night and noticed how Jenna’s blog title completely reminded me of this whole deal.
I mean, seriously?! Does that not describe this perfectly? The video that we watched had the speaker CLEARLY stating -with hand gestures- that Husband is OVER Wife in the marriage. “The wife is BENEATH the husband. This made some people completely upset because they see themselves as equal with their spouse, and both able to make decisions. They felt that the speaker in the video basically belittled wives, in their opinion. I know with Andrew and I, we rely on both of our incomes to live off of. This guy speaking said that we should not live above our means. And “means” being the husbands income. Husband should get final say-so and that’s that. Wives are always to follow the husband.
Well, with our marriage (yes, I know it’s only been 4 months! 
), we like to think that we both give 50/50. He relies on me, I rely on him. BUT, in the end when a decision is needing to be made, he is always the one that has final say-so, the “upper hand.” This hasn’t been so hard for me naturally, prob because that’s what I grew up seeing. My mom always made it clear that when we wanted something, it was whatever Daddy said goes.
So tell me, who is Head of your household? Do you let your hubs make the decisions, or do you stand your ground? And even if you aren’t married yet, do you think you will follow this and think of your future hubs above you?
Let me know! Because I’m super curious how others view this subject!!
…until next time…
I love MY man!
Hi coley cole. Well i think this discussion is pretty interesting. During premarital counseling our pastor went into detail bibically what our roles are. Brian and I go 50/50 with all bills, chores,etc. When it comes to decisions well we both hear each other out but because I trust his judgement the final decision is his; but with a little of my input. I do believe that the wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband but also the husband is to be submissive to God. If that order is followed then everything should fall in place
I’m not married yet (or even in a relationship) but I do have some strong opinions about certain things so for that I would stand my ground, but otherwise I am very open minded/willing to change things up
Oh trust me, I def voice my opinion hahaha!
First of all girl, LOVING the blog style. So super cute!!!
Karl and I aren’t married but we’ve been together so long its basically like we are already. I’d have to say its very 50/50 in our relationship and no one person has the final say on any specific matter. It kind of depends on the situation. Plus I grew up in a household where my grandma was the ruler of the home haha, what she said was the final say (she was a really tough lady, but awesome). So in general the women in my family are similar to her and may just get the final say a bit more than the men. But with Karl and I its pretty even, and it works for us!
Sounds like your grandma was a powerful lady haha!